Attitude of gratitude| Steps to relieve anxiety.

Anxiety can be crippling for some where medication is needed, however another great way to stop anxiety from rearing it’s ugly head is to sit in the attitude of gratitude!!!

You may find there are different things that trigger your anxiety and sometimes it is just a habit, or in some cases lots of people (social anxiety) this is me!!! I have both. However I have learnt now as soon as I feel anxiety coming even if I am just at home doing house hold chores jezzzz sometimes just doing nothing I switch my thoughts to positive ones of gratitude and I ask myself “what do I have in this moment & even life to be anxious about?” And majority of the time I have NOTHING…. if I am feeling anxious about something like say… money or if I have upset someone I stop and list all the amazing things in my life over and over in my head until the feeling subsides!!!! Works every time.

WAYS TO BE IN THE ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE!

1) Be in the now STOP, take a big breath and come into the present moment, look around you and list 3 things you are grateful to have around you.

2) Get out your pen and paper!! Writing a gratitude list is very powerful. Write what it is you’re grateful for and how it makes you feel.

3) If your running late in a line at the supermarket or just out shopping, repeat the things you are grateful for in your head and shift your mind. You’ll be up at the counter paying before you know it and leaving a lot lighter and happier.

4) meditation, With each inhale list one thing your grateful for hold that thought, SMILE and on the exhale give the reason why and say thank you to the universe.

5) Remember you are alive and breathing and that is something to be grateful for as soon as you open your eyes!!!! Start your day with a grateful heart and anxiety will become less of an issue as the days go by!!!

And lucky last,

6) Carry your positive charged Crystals with you every where and in a moment of anxiety either pull them out or just wrap your hand around them in your pocket and come into the present moment, fill yourself with their positive energy while repeating what it is in that moment you’re grateful for.

Thank you for reading ūüíó

Jade X x O o

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Valentine‚Äôs Day|Depression & Tips to overcome the negative emotions when you‚Äôre single.

Depression, a subject that has slowly become appropriate to talk about, it was once taboo and no one wanted to know or hear about it, however these days we have recognized that yes Depression IS a thing and many people who suffer who were suffering in silence can now open up!!!

Valentine’s Day can bring up lots of emotions in people suffering mentally, especially if they’re single emotions that come to the surface are loneliness and worthlessness, people begin to believe they are not worth a rose, or chocolates or teddy bears or love if they have no one to receive it from or to deliver it to. A holiday that symbolizes love becomes a day of pain and heartache.

feeling lonely or sad on valentines day can be unavoidable for one suffering Depression, this day may have triggers that intensify these emotions, however if we know someone who may be suffering or we know ourselves that we suffer taking positive steps will ease the feelings of loneliness, self worth and sadness, Some great tools for this are……

TAKING THE TIME TO LOVE OTHERS 

If you know someone or you yourself are the one suffering from Depression taking the time to give love to others can really help boost your mood, putting a smile on some ones face is all it can take to put a smile on yours, Taking someone flowers, chocolates, a spa voucher or something homemade like cupcakes or even just a simple card can do the trick, show them you care and they are not alone!!! If you yourself are the one suffering just seeing someone appreciate the love and knowing you have helped another can boost your mood. enjoy Galentines at its fullest and celebrate your girlfriends. You don’t need to be in a relationship to feel loved.

TAKE THE TIME TO LOVE YOURSELF

Valentines day can make you feel unworthy of love and seeing loved up couples either in the street or all over your social media can really bring up those self loathing issues. For this one day or perhaps two DO NOT go on social media and spend time with yourself doing what you love the most. use this time to write a new blog about something that makes you happy and brings out your passions, draw a bath with rose petals and your favorite candles, bath bombs and your favorite music, bake your favorite healthy treats, cook yourself a magnificent dinner with all your favorite foods, diffuse your mood boosting essential oils, surround yourself with your Favorite crystals!!! carry a Rose Quartz on you at all times well maybe beside you in the bath, Rose Quartz is the crystal of love it is used to enhance love and positive energy.

TAKE THE TIME TO SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN.

Being a single mum on Valentines day is a great way to spend some much needed quality time with your child/children. Take them out to dinner or cook them their favorite dinner if going out and seeing loved up couples triggers negative emotions. Buy them some chocolate or bake with them make some heart shaped cookies or do some craft, make some Valentines cards for their friends/crush. If they are at an age like mine where its not cool to be with mum, just buying them a card or making their favorite meal as a gesture of love can be a wonderful experience and fill your heart with love. make it special light some candles, Take them to their favorite place, go see a movie, go bowling, go to the beach & have a picnic, If you have a baby/toddler dress them in colours of love pinks and flowers, if you have a boy put him in some red.  just being around your little human can erase all the negative emotions this day can bring. 

WRITE A GRATITUDE LIST

This one is my Favorite and so simple, simply get out your pen and paper/ journal and start writing all the great things about your life, write about past experiences that made you feel so happy and grateful and remember the feelings these experiences gave you, write down what you have currently in your life that brings you peace, love and joy and really feel those positive endorphins rise, smile as you are writing, if you like hold a Crystal you feel drawn to on this day, I would suggest Rose Quartz or Amethyst.

And last but not least

REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT ALONE

It can be hard for a person suffering depression to reach out for help but it is important that you realize you will not be judged and there are lots of outlets out there for you to reach out to. Life line is a national charity providing Australians experiencing personal crisis with 24 hour support and suicide prevention. look up your local lifeline for crisis support. Reach out to family and friends just remember it helps to talk to someone and have someone by your side in hard times. 

Thank you for reading

Jade X x O o

 

 

 

Chocolate Walnut and Avocado nice cream slice | part two

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I hope you all enjoyed my recipe and some even made it, well done if you did, I would love your feedback.

As promised here it is, the benefits of each delicious ingredient used in this recipe.

1) Avocado

These babies are not only delicious but an amazing healthy fat known as mono saturated fats which help aid the body in weight loss but go easy as to much of a good thing can be bad. Helps maintain a healthy heart, lowers the risk of heart attack, lowers cholesterol and decreases inflammation.

2) Cacao

This is one of my favorite¬†ingredients as it is a great mood booster known for its anti depressant properties, it’s also full of magnesium for a healthy heart and brain, it has more antioxidants than a punnet of blueberries, it’s also known as the highest plant based source of iron and more calcium than cows milk.

3) Walnuts

Walnuts are amazing for brain health which would make sense as they look like tiny little brains. They’re also great for healthy fats (mono saturated), they promote healthy gut health, they’re a great source of plant based omega 3s and they also help aid in weights loss, again enjoy sparingly.

4) coconut oil

Well this is another of my favorites, coconut oil has a bundle of health benefits, it’s great for fat burning and provides your body with quick energy, it helps moisturize¬†skin helping you get a healthy glow, Promotes good gut health and is good for blood sugar and diabetes, aids in liver health and the list goes on, this powerful ingredient is a super food in itself….. get among it.

5) Almond meal

Almond meal is a great substitute for flour and is great for celiac and food allergies, it has all the benefits of almonds as it is just almonds crushed up, it helps to lower HDL cholesterol and has trace minerals like iron and magnesium and also helps add protein to you raw goodies.

6) Manuka honey

Ahhhh an all time fave… Manuka honey no only does this ingredient pack a sweet punch mmmm mmmmmm it helps to fight against infection in the body helping it to heal, it has anti viral and anti inflammatory properties, it helps digestive issues and can also be used to smooth a sore throat.

So there you have it, get amongst these amazing ingredients and start to see a change in your health, as the old saying goes….. YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT!!!

Thanks for reading!!! x

Jade X x O o

For the love of food | Chocolate, Walnut and avocado Nice cream slice. – part one.

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We all know the health benefits of Cacao, Walnuts and Avocado and if you don’t watch out for my next blog as I explain the health benefits of this recipe, I will be sharing not only the recipe for this delicious slice but also the health benefits of every ingredient in part two, So let’s get started……

Ingredients

 1/2 cup of Cacao powder

1/2 cup of walnuts, crushed

2 Avocados, sliced

2 Tbl spoons of extra virgin coconut oil, melted

1 tbl spoon of pure maple syrup or Manuka honey. Optional if you prefer a little sweetness

1 1/2 cups of almond meal

To make Simply mix ingredients in a bowl until it forms a smooth texture leaving out the Avocado to add in last.

Pour into a baking tray, as you are pouring in add the avocado 2 cms apart at the bottom and on top of the tray.

Place in the freezer over night, can be eaten cold or left for a few minutes to become a bit softer. Has an ice cream texture.

That is how easy it is and tastes delicious. If you do make it feel free to let me know your thoughts & watch out for the benefits of this delicious slice in Part two of this blog post.

Jade X x O o

How my son starting High School is Changing my life!!

As I sit here on my comfy couch with my computer to the right of me and My Peppermint tea to the left and my oh so grown up son in the middle, I reflect on the month that was, leading up to this day.

My sons first day of HIGH SCHOOL

Welcoming in 2019 was a great feeling and one of the best new year welcomings I have had in a long time. feeling genuinely happy with the year that was, there was so much growing and amazing transitions into new beginnings, letting go and feeling lighter as i entered 2019.

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It has also been a big transitioning year for my son who has also had some big changes alongside me, hormones changing, growing up so fast, feeling some strong emotions, dealing with anger from teachers and bullies at school, self worth and confidence issues it was one big year of learning for the both of us and he has taught me just as much about life as I believe I have taught him.

many times throughout the year I struggled as he withdrew himself from me, not wanting to hang out, or even talk to me at times, I did however manage to get him down the beach for walks, these are the best bonding times for us we have some interesting conversations at the beach. and also in the car on long trips to visit grandma.

now don’t get me wrong  in no way do I want to raise a mommies boy,  however I do want a tight relationship with my son.

Today was a big ball of emotions I watched my son slip that little further away from me, I felt proud, I felt scared, I felt anxious, I felt like I just wanted to get out the car and grab him and support him, but as I watched him walk to the gate all by himself knowing that he was feeling nervous, so nervous that he told himself to breath, shut his eyes and took a deep breath in as he opened the car door I knew he didn’t need me and although I was scared for him I couldn’t have been more prouder of the young man walking before me! as I turn the wheel to drive away I swallow the lump in my throat and the first tear appears a tear of happiness followed by another of anxiety and another of fear and another of pure proudness and of course tears of joy, they left as quick as they came and I couldn’t wait to pick him up!!!

As the day went by I could not stop thinking about him, what he might be doing? how he was feeling? Is he happy? Is he making friends the typical mum questions!!! pulling into the same spot I dropped him off at emotions started rolling back in that was until I saw him walking towards the car with a very big smile on his face, could have been due to the fact that he couldn’t wait to get in the car and get the hell out of there but I just knew he was genuinely happy, as he jumped into the car I eagerly ask him how his first day was he replied with √Ņeah good” with a giggle in his voice and all my anxiety and fears melted away!!!

And now I sit here and reflect on how starting this new chapter in his life ‘HIGH SCHOOL’ is also going to strongly change my life.

he is growing everyday into a young man, I am so proud of,  I want to raise a peaceful humble human being and although I do not believe that children become their parents I do however believe parents still have a huge impact on their child’s character and traits, they look up to us and just knowing this has motivated me to make some better choices, to focus on being the best mum I can be for him throughout this challenging time.

looking back at high school and how challenging it was for me, I am going to be here to support my son all the way and the best way to support him in his journey is to make better choices for mine.

for example,

Going to bed earlier!

as we’re all aware we function better with a well rested mind and body, shut eye is so important and something I myself do struggle with, not because I cant sleep but I choose to sit up late because I enjoy the moments alone with myself.however not always the best choice. this can cause moodiness, low energy levels and fatigue which therefore makes me think twice about cooking fresh meals as I become to lazy and to tired to cook which leads to bad food choices, which then leads to poor gut health and this is a bad cycle!!! If I go to bed earlier he will too, I am his role model and he will get pretty bored sitting all alone I dare say.

Make my lunch! 

I am still in the process of transitioning him into making his own lunch every day but he is only 12 and I don’t want him to grow up to soon ha ha, thus this helps me prepare mine as I am already in the kitchen and in the lunch making process so whats one more lunch to prepare.

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Using my brain more for more purposeful activities, like writing this blog.

when looking at laptops for my son to take to high school (that is how far the generations have come…….WOW!) needless to say I was intrigued and it motivated me to get mine out and have a play which enticed me back to this blog.                                                                     This also got me thinking if I learnt how to use it properly it will be easier for me to navigate and support my son if he gets stuck on his. whilst being his role model if he sees me enjoying and writing a blog he may just want to make that assignment look just as good as mums blogs!

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Better time management! Setting Priorities!

Having my son start high school is a whole new ball game, I have already had another human to motivate, to get ready, to study, to eat well and to deal with people aka teachers, other students, friends and girlfriends, however high school is x 10.

I will need to make time to be present and available for him when he needs support with assignments/homework or even just a chat, this will therefore lead me to make my mind clear of distractions enabling me to focus fully on him & encourage me to wind down for the evening and therefore helping him wind down as well!!!

I will go into my best wind down tips in another blog post.

I will also need to get him out of bed I will want to do this as peacefully and calmly as getting us into bed as to not start the day with a negative emotion, tension and anxiety. Getting up earlier to practice yoga ,enjoy a warm lemon tea, go for a walk, write my gratitude list, whatever I feel like doing, having some me time to start the day will enable me with a calm approach while waking him therefore this will motivate me to re introduce yoga back into my mornings.

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Making nutritious clean food as much as possible!

In no way am I saying leftovers are a bad idea by gosh they have saved the day on many occasions, however nothing beats a fresh made meal bursting with nutrients for a healthy functioning brain and body physically and mentally.

high school requires brain power mentally for studying and physically for sports, I want my son to preform at his best and preparing him with nutritious healthy cooked food will arm him with the support he needs mentally and physically, having nutritious healthy foods myself allows me to have the mental and physical capacity to support him throughout this transition, if I am prepared mentally I can support him with the more challenging aspects of high school whilst also helping my self perform at my optimum level on this journey.

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Taking a probiotic every day.

The gut is our second brain which supports every aspect of our bodies, it is something we really need to take care of, to keep your gut functioning at its optimum taking a good probiotic everyday helps support a healthy gut, I suggest life space double strength, this brand also does a kids probiotic.                                                                                            Taking a good probiotic in the morning is a great way to start the day, I personally find it easier to remember if I include it in my morning routine.

powders are also available which can be easier to convince children to have them as it is easily hidden in a drink, you could try juice, preferably fresh or a smoothie my son loves banana smoothies so this will be my go to with the added bonus of prebiotics in the bananas its perfect, this will be achieved by making his smoothie alongside mine so we have them together he loves when we drink them together & not only am I looking after his gut & health I am looking after mine while I am at it.

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back these up with the appropriate pre biotics, preparing nutritious cooked meals is a great opportunity to do this by adding some pre biotic foods to them. I personally like Asparagus, garlic & Leek.

Implementing these changes has enhanced the quality of both myself and my sons life arming me with the tools and clarity to live my best life, by being a role model for my son who is my driving motivator  i am changing my life.

and that my friends is how my son starting high school is changing my life!!!!

Jade X x O o

 

 

The modernized holistic well being approach of 2019

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Well here we are in 2019 and its a whole new era, generations have changed and the way we do things is forever transitioning into something new, something wonderful something great.

I myself have always been a lover of holistic well being, although it has taken me a while to fully grasp the meaning of a holistic lifestyle, why it is important and not just some fad trend that will be over in a month or so possibly 2 unless it really catches on maybe three!!!

my point is that i love the new modernized way of holistic well being,  Well done Humans.

Although all these amazing super foods, Crystals and the LOA (law of attraction) have been around for what i am going to say would be Centuries, by super foods, Crystals and the LOA i am referring to

*Cacao

*Maca

*Matcha, I would say its safe to say i didn’t even know about this ingredient until 2016 and even more now that the trend has set in and people are learning about and feeling the amazing health benefits of Matcha.

*Turmeric and Ginger

*Chia seeds

*Acia bowls

*Amethyst, Jade, Amber and rose Quarts

*The power of positive thinking and acting

and your simple fruits and Vegetables, however they seem to discover a new one every minute, like who would have thought Kale was also purple?  totally love it though.

they have been around for years but the new modernized 2000s have glorified them and created new ways of obtaining them in our diets and everyday lives and more and more  people want to know about the amazing health benefits of these super foods and this way of living.

I remember when i believed my health choices in my twenties where up to scratch and i was making the best choices for my body and well being.

however learning about this new way of living i now realize i wasn’t any where close to¬† living at my optimum level of health compared to where i am now in my thirties.

I would read the magazine articles on how to be healthy with dot points of DOs and Donts!!!

  • DONT Smoke
  • DO get 6-8 hours sleep
  • DONT consume alcohol
  • DO eat lots of greens¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† I¬†knew full well what i had to do and like i said have always had a passion for holistic well being. However I didn’t have the tools that we have today in our modernized world….. or i have only just discovered them in the last few years¬† either way we are expanding as a human race, we are all becoming more aware of our health and well being, our minds are expanding and opening up to new ideas of health and well being which means more experimenting and finding new ways that work so we can share with each other and the world.

 

Countries all over are sharing their Super foods, for example Turmeric originated from India and in Australia and of course other countries we source it to make turmeric lattes, turmeric slices, turmeric paste, turmeric tea, turmeric muffins etc i could go on and on, however you get my point.

This is a whole new era of exciting new and modernized ideas and i cannot wait to implement the wonderful modernized way of holistic well being of the 2000s into my life and discover and share with you all.

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from new recipes to new manifestation techniques i hope you all join me for the amazing discoveries that are yet to be embarked on.

Jade – X x O o

The key to believing is gratefulness

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one of the best keys to believing is gratefulness, expressing gratitude shows you just how far you have come and what you have manifested to be grateful for in the first place.

what is to say you would be happier with more if you are not already happy with what you currently have, happiness is a journey not a destination, if we keep using phrases like once we get this or once we do this we will be happy we will forever be unhappy and are setting ourselves up for some major disappointment. I know i have been exactly here aswell, we’re only human.

So one of the keys to change your belief system is to intern replace our attitudes towards where we currently are in out lives,  a tip is to write a list every morning and every night of the things in our lives that we are most grateful for and do this with the absolute intention of feeling the emotion that is gratefulness!!!!

how do the things that we are most grateful for make us feel?

Think about it like this, what is the feeling you get from a new car, remember how amazing and happy it made you feel as you drove it out the car yard,  it should still make you feel that way now, maybe not as  intense as the initial new car feeling, but as the car you always wanted YOU HAVE, how awesome is that and guess what you manifested it into your life weather you are aware of it or not. So we better start believing,

here is a little story of my own that may help you understand the key to believing a little more, I believed 100% i could have and own my car…..

I 100% manifested my car and to this day I am still so grateful for it. all I had to do was believe I could have it and see it in my life and it would eventually manifest, so every time I saw a Honda civic I would think to my self regardless of whether it was intentional or not as if we want something we think about how much we want it, so I would always say to myself I want one of those cars, i will have one of those cars one day!!!! I actually had my standards very low at this stage of my life as i had not really experienced much or researched much into manifestation so I had my heart set on an old school 1999 Honda civic, wanted to pimp it up purple or pink.. as time went by about a year or so I  would google images, search on car sights for Honda civics for sale as I did this another particular Honda Civic caught my eye and I switched my order to the universe to a more updated modern 2008 model. I had made up my mind this was what i wanted no regrets no changing my mind, i knew this was the car i wanted and i was on a mission to get it.

So after meeting a guy coincidentally¬† {no such thing as coincidence} who happened to own a would you believe it the Honda I had my heart now set on. I remember falling in love with it, Cherry red with a spoiler, halo angel led head lights and chrome rear tail lights, a matte black bonnet and rims one would die for………. oh and i very much took a liking to the unusual window wipers,¬† I am sounding very materialistic right now ha ha anyways i fell head over heels in love and this heightened my desire to own one of these cars to a whole new level and put me on a very high frequency to manifestation,¬† I searched so many sights i was even willing to pay extra to have one sent up from Brisbane in a container or on a truck however they do it. but after searching many sites i found one in cairns and went to the car yard that day to look at it, it was raining or more appropriate pouring and i was getting soaked as i was gazing through the windows , but i could not feel it i didn’t care as i was in love, i had found my car!!!! My updated modern silver Honda civic with a little baby spoiler {they didn’t make many with these, so a rare site}.

the next day i went the car yard and organised a test drive as soon as i could, it was the smoothest car i had ever driven and fell in love even more again heightening my frequency to manifest, without hesitation traded in my previous car and off i went feeling such joy and happinessssssss,  i still remember the feeling it gave me to this day,  4 years later and whenever i write down my car on a gratitude list i Remember this story and feel such gratefulness for my Honda civic and i am still so happy with my little Honda civic!!!!

Hope you enjoyed my story and hope it helps you when writing your own gratitude lists.

believe Always x